Why include your child?
Separation can be particularly hard for children, and research shows that being consulted during family separation is good for their wellbeing. Talking to a mediator can help because:
- Children often don't tell a parent what they really think, especially if they are aware of conflict.
- They may say different things to each parent, to avoid upsetting either of you.
- In tense households, children are often busy keeping the peace and haven't had space to think about their own feelings.
- Both parents get a private space with the mediator; children deserve the same.
- However loving, a parent is not in an impartial position to hear and pass on a child's views.
What happens
- Both parents agree. We discuss CIM at your MIAMs and agree how your child will be invited.
- The child session. A relaxed 60-minute conversation between your child and the mediator, by video. If you have more than one child, all can be included.
- Agreeing feedback. The mediator and child agree what the child would like shared.
- Parent feedback session. The mediator shares the child's views with you both, and helps you use them in your parenting plan.
What it costs
The child session is £200 in total, usually split between parents (£100 each). The parent feedback session is £130 per parent. See all fees.