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Why mediate instead of going to court?

Mediation is a voluntary, confidential process in which an impartial mediator helps people in conflict reach their own agreement. Compared with court, it is usually quicker, far cheaper and less stressful, and it keeps decisions in your hands rather than a judge's.

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The principles of mediation

  • Voluntary. People choose to take part, which encourages co-operation.
  • Impartial. The mediator doesn't take sides or impose decisions.
  • Confidential. Discussions stay private, unlike court hearings.
  • In your control. You decide the outcome, rather than a judge.
  • Quicker and cheaper. Far less financial and emotional cost.
  • Future-focused. Practical solutions rather than dwelling on the past.

What we help with

For separation, divorce, child arrangements and financial settlements. We help parents and couples resolve co-parenting, property, pensions and maintenance in a structured, supportive setting, with children's needs at the centre. Family mediation.

Mediation compared with court

MediationCourt
Who decidesYouA judge
TimeWeeks to a few monthsAround 10 months for a children order, often longer
CostTypically £630 to £955 per personCourt fees plus legal fees, often many thousands
PrivacyConfidentialFormal hearings and records
FlexibilityAgreements can be adapted as things changeOrders are fixed until varied by the court

Frequently asked questions

What is Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR)?

ADR means resolving disputes without going to court, through methods such as mediation, arbitration and collaborative law. It is usually faster, cheaper and less adversarial than litigation, and family courts now expect separating couples to consider these options before applying.

Is mediation required before going to court?

For most family court applications about children or finances, you must attend a MIAM first unless an exemption applies. Since 2024, courts can also take an unreasonable failure to consider non-court options into account.

What happens if mediation does not produce an agreement?

You keep the right to go to court. Mediation discussions remain confidential and cannot normally be used as evidence. For family cases, your mediator can confirm your MIAM on the court form.

Is a mediated agreement legally binding?

Not automatically. A solicitor can turn your financial agreement into a consent order, which the court approves and is then legally binding. Parenting arrangements are usually recorded in a parenting plan.

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